Not mine, credit goes to original writer.
Dear optimists & pessimists, either way, the glass has the same amount of liquid.
Sincerely, a realist.
This page isn't there to give you a better or more negative outlooks on life. It's simply there to show you the full pictures. You know, the part that some of you deny exist or turn a blind eyes to. I hope at the end you will be able to have a more balance view on life and find the you... that you have locked away yourself.
Read and Recite
To every girl who gossiped about me in corners of parties, to those who were my slap in the face, to the close minded or misunderstanding, to the one that broke my heart, and to those friends who turned out to be backstabbers. You all challenged me to become the person I wanted to be. I am stronger because of all the stupid shit you put me through. No matter how much you have done to me, you have unknowingly helped me out. So thanks. You think I'm full of myself? Why? Because I stand up for myself when someone makes a comment? Because I'm not ashamed of what my body looks like? Because I've finally realized that it doesn't matter if I'm not the prettiest girl around, what matters is that I'm confident as who I am? Well if that makes me full of myself, then I'm perfectly content with that. I like me just the way I am. After all, an original mind is rarely understood.
Goddess. A word that very few women remember to be. Unlike being sexy, cool, gangster, popular, ect. Goddess is not just a label. It's a lifestyle, a you-ness you can say, that sets you apart from all others. A part of you that won't and can't be changed, alters, hurt, or copy. A lot of girls have asked me the same question over and over again. What and how did I get so confident? And time and time again, I would answer the same thing;"Why shouldn't I be confident at the one thing I'm great at being?" Just being me. This is my personal thoughts and feelings of my own journey in life up till now. I hope it will inspired, help, comfort, and lift your spirit up and help you reach the state of which I am at. Because honestly it's not a feeling that I can explain in simple terms. This is your guide find your inner goddess. Remember to never be afraid to be yourself. Remember an original is worth more than a copy.
Lesson one: Happiness is a direction, not a destination.
Studies show that intelligent girls are more depressed, because they know the world can lie. It's alright to be down once in a while but let's not let this fact rain on our parade because there are other beautiful things to be happy about.
Okie, now ladies I want you to join me on this journey to give you a peace of mind. Every goddess are able to think clearer thoughts because they have a peace of mind. Here, no one can bother you not because they can't but because they aren't allow to. Who won't allow them? You and your right as the goddess. You make the rules in your life. Without the green light there are no go. Without your permission no one is allow to bring you any sorrow.
There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who created it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy. Problem is we tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. There are 5 simple rules to happiness that I live by; one:free your heart from hatred, two: free your heart from worries, three:live simply, four: live more, five:expect less. I wish I could locate and pin point the coordinate where happiness is located for you, but I can't. No one can because each person has their own views on what happiness is about for them. You don't need to be at the right place to be happy. You just gotta make the best out of any place that you're at and be content with that. That is happiness. With that being said, understand that even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. So, I'm not saying to not pushing for growth and development. It's actually alright to want bigger and better things but do not depend or base your needs on it. Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have. Desire leaves us heartbroken; it wears us out. Desires can wreck your life. And as tough as wanting something can be, the people who suffer the most are those who don't know what they want. So know what you want and need but also know that you could get exactly what you want and need from where you are right now. Nothing come free so what you reap is what you sow. You can't buy a Mercedez with a dollar but it takes a dollar to add up to that 200G's Mercedez that you want. Appreciate what you have because without a starting place you have no base to get to where you want to be. Anyone who thinks that sunshine is pure happiness has obviously never danced in the rain. So stop searching forever for that location because happiness could already be next to you. When you focus on problems, you'll create them. When you focus on possibilities, you'll have more. When you focus on life, you'll love it. Do me a favor and always remember this one short memo. I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.
You can't have everything you want but you can have everything you need.
Repeat after me. "You can get as far as you let yourself."
Lesson Two: Earn your rights to speak up.
When you judge someone, you don’t define them. You define yourself. Everyone has a secret they haven't shared. Everyone has a past no one's heard about. Everyone has talents that people don't notice. Everyone has weaknesses hidden inside. Everyone has a story left untold, so never start judging someone thinking you know them back to front. Because the truth is, you probably don't. Because when you judge someone you don't define them,you define yourself.
While everybody is busy thinking that everybody knows everything about everyone else, but nobody knows anything about themselves because they're all worried about everyone else and what they are doing. Maybe we should focus on who we are and what we are really about before we put on nose on someone else's life. Because if you want to be around "good" people like yourself "like you think" you must tend to "yourself" first. You can't just assume that life is full of fake people because before you decide to judge them, make sure you're not one of them.We tends to attract a reflection of ourselves so if you live in trouble,you're guaranteed going to have troublemakers around you. If you are naturally a positive person. You will attract other positive people to enter your life. Being happy is the same. So a goddess must chooses her words wisely; she must put brain in gear before she put her mouth in motion. Before you can tell another girl to just shut that blowjob factory they call their mouth down. Make sure yours is neat, clean, and glossed. That's why there are two reasons why people don't talk about something. Either it means nothing or it means everything.
Lesson Three: I run this game, just play your role
Don’t let anyone rob you of your imagination, your creativity, or your curiosity. It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. If there's one thing that I know for a fact and that's this: Keep your heels, heads, and standard high. I'm never shocked when people let me down nowadays. I just hate the fact I put myself in a position to be let down in the first place. When you're at the top, remember what if felt like at the bottom. When you're at the bottom, remember what it felt like at the top. Good doesn't last forever. Neither does bad.
Partners help each other undress before sex. However after sex, they always dress on their own. Moral of the story: In life, no one will helps you once you get fucked. I like this moral because it helps me see guys more critically. I view my future boyfriends or to be boyfriend with the question: "Would he dress me afterward?" I apologize for the vulgarity of this lesson but something should just be said in simple terms. I'm 22 years old so this may not apply to you younger readers but here's what does apply to you guys. Boys your age won't dress you and can't dress you. But they'll continue to sleep with you naked next to them. However, I hope that with knowing this thoughts in mind you'll decide better on who to and not to open your legs to. You're a goddess darling. You run this game. Everyone else in it are just players of it. You make the rules. Let only the strongest players finish and eliminate all "further" time wasting and mistakes/heartaches making losers. I don't mean turn into a player and break everyone heart and forget about every loving someone honestly because a goddess isn't a player.
Every once in a while, you need to look at yourself, and ask if you like the person you’re becoming. Time and time again, people have turned out to be the very same person they kept promising not to be.
Trust me. I know exactly how it feels to cry in the shower so no one can hear you. I know what it's like to wait for everyone to be asleep so you can fall apart. For everything to hurt so bad, you just want it all to end. I know exactly how it feels. Here’s a lesson for every single girl out there: Never, ever settle. You may think you aren't gorgeous, smart and have too many insecurities too count. But there is going to be someone in the world who truly loves you for you. Don’t ever think that you've got to put up with some boy’s shit because he’s the first one in a long time to show some interest. You are all beautiful in your own individual way so never lower your standards. Did you ever notice, that when people tell you you've changed, in truth it's only because you stopped acting the way they want you to? My mom once told me "what happen to you? You were such a good girl." I remember turning around and telling her. "I've never been me mom. I really want to live as me for a while could I try doing that?" She didn't understand me then but she trusted my decision to live as me and in making my own mistakes. It's always easier to stand in the crowd but when you stand with the crowd you'll be nothing more but part of the blob that you once hate so much. Take a look around, one day when you realize that you've hurt the wrong people by being with the crowd and it's your turn to stand up to say what's right.You'll be alone. Really alone this time. It takes courage to stand alone and honestly, I'm still alone in my fight for my right to being me. I've always been the type to please everyone around me but doing that really tires me out. Living is hard enough when you have expectations to live up to. I'm having a hard time living up to my own. It's tiring to live up to my parents standard when I'm so confuse with what standard I live by. Welp, I've found me through the shatter confuse pieces of life and though she's not perfect in your eyes. She's beautiful to me. The fragile but unbreakable me. It has been said that a person who never makes mistakes never makes anything. Studies shows that if you look carefully at people’s eyes the first five seconds they look at you, the truth of their feelings will shine through for just an instant before it flickers away. My mom eyes worries for me as she looks at me but she would smile afterward because she's also proud that I grew up.
Lesson 4: I am not a has-been. I am a will-be.
I’m often mistaken for a flirt when I’m friendly. I’m usually mistaken for a bitch when I’m blunt. I’m casually mistaken for sad when I’m alone. I’m at time mistaken for shy when I’m quiet. Moral to the story: quit assuming and get to know me. No matter what bad reputations you have now. It doesn't matter. It will not matter because it doesn't determine who you are or who you could become. Which reminds me of my favorite line; "I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it." Do learn to admit your mistakes before someone exaggerates the story. So if you wanna fly, you’ve got to give up the shit that weighs you down.
This lesson is simple. I want you to confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your own demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel and as a reminder of your strength. I want you to be proud walking in your own skin; whatever that may be. Never feel shameful that you've stuffed your bras so now it's too late to turn around. Or you'be had surgery done here or there to enhance it. What matter is who you are now and how you look now. Why be ashame of who you are. Wear or show what you did to the light and be okay with it. Because as long as you're okay with it. Others has nothing on you to make fun of. Because happy girls are the prettiest. The most confident girls isn't confident because she is perfect. She is confident because she's happy and okay with herself. Your self image is the basic root to your confident and inner happiness. No one can be happy when they are hurt on the inside. Cure it and be strong mentally before you change physically. When you’re a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one’s lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. So until you face all the mistakes you've made, you'll never change. The lesson: If you can’t accept yourself, then certainly no one else will. So, the next time you think of beautiful things, don't forget to count yourself in. Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you.
P.S your character is based on what you stand for and your reputation is based on what you fall for. Be a girl with a mind, a bitch with an attitude, and a lady with class. So act like a lady but think like a boss. Be a reason for a person to change. So smile.. it will either warm their hearts of piss them off. Either way; you win.
Lesson 5: No Regrets.
Evidently common sense isn't that common. Making mistakes is apart of growing up. You don't just wake up & know what to do. If you think you do, you're just wrong. It's not an opinion, it's a fact. A mistake can lead to something good, or bad. Sometimes it's a choice. Sometimes you can avoid the bad, choose the good. Sometimes it's uncontrollable. Just like making mistakes. Mistakes are uncontrollable.We are who we are because we made ourselves that way. No one comes into your body and changes the way you act. Sure they have an influence but in the end, it's all up to you how you want to live your life. Life isn't about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself. You’re lucky enough to be different, never change.
The saddest summary of a life contains two descriptions: might have & should have. Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than the ones you did. Let me tell you a few things about regret. There is no end to it. You cannot find the beginning of the chain that brought us from there to here. Question is...Do you regret the beginning which ended so badly or just the ending itself? Blaming everybody else is great until you’ve got nobody left around to blame but yourself. Truth is still absolute. Believe that. Even when that truth is hard and cold, and more painful than you've ever imagined. And even when truth is more cruel than any lie.
P.S. You miss one-hundred percent of the shots you never take. The ones who say you can't & you won't are always the ones who are most scared that you will. So tell this to the haters...Take Your Best Shot, Cause You Only Get One.
Lesson 6: Don't make permanent decisions on temporary feeling
Don't make decisions when you're angry. Don't make promises when you're happy. It's quite ironic that in life, the person that brings out the best in you and the one that makes you feel stronger is actually your weakness. Sometimes you have to fall from the mountains to realize what you're fighting for. Obstacles are placed in our way to see if what we want is worth fighting for. From every wound, there's a scar, & every scar tells a story. A story that says, "I was deeply wounded but I survived is that of a goddess." For she wasn't born on mount Olympus. Like Hercules she earned her right to be there. Never let success get to your head and never let failure get to your heart. This topic is a bit broad so I'll do my best to summarize each points of what I mean by the lesson.
People only see what you did not why you did it. Summer is kind of like the ultimate one-night stand: hot as hell, totally thrilling, & gone before you know it. Summer break. When the sun gets hot and the moon gets hazy, good girls go bad, & it gets crazy! Where u drink triple, see double, & act single.When a girl goes bad and men go right after her. In other words. When the night is good or life is going as plan and all goes well you may feel that nothing could go wrong and the world is perfect...it's not. Just because you feel that no one will judge you because everyone is doing the same thing doesn't mean the judging stop. What will they say after the booze wear off the music gets turns off. You making out with an AIDS carrier or getting yourself tape having sex with a whole group will still stand. Using the "I'm drunk" excuse no longer work ladies and gentleman. We take responsibility for our actions-whatever it may be. Ordinary girls gives in to the norms. Goddess stay focus on the goals, morals, ect..even under influence. We do not touch the bar or sit at the bar where all the other girl is at. We set the bar and makes the rules. So don't decide to have a one night stand with a stranger just because you feel he could be the one. What you feel isn't a fact. It's nothing more but what you wish would happens as you desperately lie to yourself to achieve what you want to be real. If the feeling is there; it will be there int he morning when you are sober. It's never too late to have sex..ect. Don't decide to go back out with your ex just because he made your heart beat a little. It ended for a reason and trust me if it didn't work the first time; it hell won't get any better the second. Nothing change from before the only thing that did is you forgetting why you dump him in the first place. Feelings are false guidance with no facts supported. Until it's a fact you will not take any actions for mistakes is a smudge in your glorious existence. Why wear a smudge loud and proud later on when you can be flawless? Remind yourself that what you are feeling now is nothing more but a test for your own self. Perfections. Want it? If you want something you’ve never had before, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done before. In this case. Think. You have it. Use it. Don't let this time be a mistake.
P.S. Never forget what someone says to you when their angry; That's when the truth comes out.
Lesson 7: Use your heads.
We hope for a boy who, as we smooth out our hair and tug at our clothes will grab our hands, smile, and ask us, "Now what the heck are you trying to fix beautiful?" Difference between mind and heart; your mind tells you the smart thing to do... your heart tells you what you're gonna do anyway. A goddess doesn't follow her heart. She follows her mind. So repeat after me..Fuck it, Don't be the girl that needs a man. Be the girl a man needs.
Easier said than done but in this world the most successful aren't the happiest but they are riches, most successful, best of the best..ect. Your heart holds morals and emotions. Too bad morals and emotions can only get you so far until you're flat broke and blaming the cruel world for treating you that way when you've lived as such a good person. While your mind, the best weapon god can give to anyone but no one uses anymore. The mind is there to tell you right from wrong. What would gain the most benefits. What should you stay away from. What keeps you alive and healthy. Your mind is a calculator, a shield, the generator of the world most dangerous weapon. Weighting the good and bad fairly (if not affected by the heart) it would function more effectively. That's why there's no emotions in business just numbers. If we treat the world as a business transactions we would surely chose what's most benefiting. Surely you would want the best spending as little as you can possibly. Why not view the world in that manner for a better result? Instead of asking your heart what to do. Stand in the third person point of view and give yourself some real advice. That man that you love oh so much. Could he really give you a stable and comfortable future? Or will you suffer in the name of love? A goddess uses her mind as her tools and her heart as a guideline. Don't live heartlessly but that doesn't mean to live in suffering either.
Love is when the butterflies never fly away. So if he loves you for you today. He'll love you for you tomorrow. Don't worry about what decision you may make because if he loves you and you're meant to be. What ever you may chose will not change the outcomes. Don't get so hang up with him and say yes because darling at 15 you are not ready to be someone's wife, have sex, or get pregnant. If he loves you so much. Thanks him but let him wait another day. A day when you are ready to take responsibilities. Those pretty little lies shouldn't be the reason for you to take off your clothes or hands him a leash with a collar on your neck. It should be the other way around (no offense boys). They say women are kittens for a reason.Do you ever see kitten in leash??? No. So stop acting like a dog and claim your position proud. We roam where we please and we only let you pet us when we want to. Why use so much strength when you have so much brain? A goddess do not believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. Because she knows that a very few times in your life if you were lucky you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect,or because you were but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together. Remember my darling, a goddess sees the world with the realist approach.
Lesson 8: Cover it up with a smile.
Smiling. Such a simple thing to do, with such massive rewards. Go about your day with a smile on your face. Smile at the people you like. Smile at those you dislike. & even smile at complete strangers. Smile in spite of life's troubles, even if you feel you've hit rock bottom. Because if you're at rock bottom, things can only get better. So smile at everyone, & smile about everything. You'll feel better for it.
I hate that moment when my anger turns into tears. It makes me looks and feel vulnerable. No matter how angry I am I would cover that anger up with a smile. A goddess never reveals her emotions to people whom are unworthy. The smile is your best weapon and defense mechanism. It's harder to shed a tears of defeat with a smile. When you can smile through bitterest encounter and master this defense you'll never be hurt. This way the next time someone you really love or really care about you see you cry. They'll know they've really screw up. Make those tears reserved and precious. Gather up your tears, keep em in your pocket and save em for a time when you're really gonna need them.
I was once a cry baby and my tears were once toss aside as unimportant. Ever since I've treasured my tears so has my boyfriend and loved one. No matter what dire situations arise I would smile through it all. But when I do release a tears here and there. My boyfriend would run for cover as if it's the last day on earth. He would yield to my every desires and words. That's why a woman tears is so valuable and shouldn't be shed so easily. Your tears are your best weapons. Stop throwing it away for trash. So everywhere you go... take a smile with you. Live happy: it's the best revenge because sometimes you have to hurt someone’s feelings just to let them understand how it felt when they hurt yours.
Lesson 9: Pride
It's amazing. Some people, they just say these small little things, one sentence and it changed the way you feel about them in an instant. Small little words that can hurt you so much or make you fall deeply in love forever. It changes everything, nothing between you is ever really the same again, even if they don't know it, it still happens. Apologizing doesn't always mean you are wrong. At times,you do it because you value the relationship and love the..person more than your pride. To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Pride isn't arrogance on what you think you know is right. But the ability to swallow it as well as you stroke it. Your pride will not feed you, dress you, shelters you, or give you everything you want in this world. I do not mean do not have any pride but use your pride wisely. Take pride in who you are but do not be hurt when some one tells you who you are aren't what they are looking for. Take pride in what you do but do not be arrogant and stuck up just because you make more money or at a higher position. There are no such things as higher position. Because if that job didn't exist we didn't need it did we? Since it exist... we clearly have a need for it. Take pride in what you say/do/promise for your pride aren't just how people look at you but how you look at yourself. And you can't see yourself if the pride has blur your eyes of the truth.
Lesson 10: Be the you..you wish they'd see.
The minute you start enjoying yourself & the person who you have become; when you walk into a room with your head held high and the minute you wake up and are glad to be you, the possibilities and the opportunities will come knocking at your door, & they are endless. Final lesson is this: "I don't want to sit around & hope good things will happen. I want to make them happen. I want to be in control of my own destiny." I want you to be able to embeds this so deep in your mind that they'll find it in your fossils millions of years from now. Success isn’t how far you got, but the distance you traveled from where you started. Ultimately, when something bad happens; you have three choices: You can let it define you, Let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
Never compare your love story, life, dreams with those in the movies,because they are written by scriptwriters. Yours is written by God. After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security. You'll quickly learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises. Sooner or later you'll begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans. After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much, so plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, and you really do have worth. Tomorrow is a blank page, just waiting to be filled with your dreams… All you have to do is be yourself and live the story of your own unique life. Be proud. Be confident. And most of all be happy. Never doubt, never look back and the life I love is the one I lead it gets crazy, but that's fine by me. I can't teach you how to change/control your hearts. I can't tell you it's easy to follow what you think is right because it isn't... But I will tell you. Whatever decision you may makes and whom ever you may hurt along the way... It will not change the fact that life goes on. With or without you. Be strong my pretties. You have to be unique, and different, and shine in your own way.
P.S do this for me okay? Never treat someone like a celebrity and if you do...don't be surprised if they treat you like a fan. You are just as great as a person than anyone in that room.
